Facebook as Virtual Mirror – Book review
Posted: May 3, 2012 at 1:04 pm | By: Serena Westra | Tags: Damhuis, facebook, Generation Y, society, sociology, unhappy
By Serena Westra
Facebook makes us unhappy is the main premise of Dutch author Koen Damhuis. In his new book ‘De Virtuele Spiegel; Waarom Facebook ons Ongelukkig Maakt’ (The Virtual Mirror; Why Facebook makes us Unhappy) he is examining his generation, Generation Y, which is raised in a society with high expectations and no room for failure. According to him, the ubiquitous presence of Facebook makes us unhappy because we are confronted with all the things we did not accomplish and chances we did not take. Facebook friends always seem to look better, prettier and more successful. ‘Facebook provides the possibility to get closer to perfection; consequently the discrepancy between the ordinary world and our virtual image of the world gets bigger. […] It becomes harder and harder to accept failure, especially for Generation Y that want’s everything’ (Damhuis, 2012).
In The Virtual Mirror Damhuis gives three options to deal with this issue. First self-improvement: be better then your Facebook friends. You can use Facebook to hide your authentic self and to ‘fake it till you make it’. Second: have fewer ambitions. Creating borders in a borderless world might be a solution, because giving up your ambitions can be just as fulfilling as succeeding. The third option is a combination of both: try to be better than your friends, but accept failure too.
According to Damhuis we are living in a performance culture. Instead of accepting the fact that we are not necessarily the prettiest or most important person in the world, we oblige each other to see ourselves as special. Facebook helps us with this from commercial grounds – the more personalized the profile, the more personalized the advertisement can be – and provides us with the space we need to do this. Virtually we all look pretty and exceptional. ‘You are putting on a mask to hide your own mediocrity – we are all doing this in front of the virtual mirror.’
However, on his quest to find the reason why Facebook makes Generation Y unhappy, Damhuis forgets one important thing: to look at Facebook itself. New media critic Lev Manovich believes that an analysis cannot be complete until we consider the software layer. ‘All disciplines which deal with contemporary society and culture – architecture, design, art criticism, sociology, political science, humanities, science and technology studies, and so on – need to account for the role of software and its effects in whatever subjects they investigate’ (Manovich, 2008). Software is still invisible to most academics and the use of software studies in combination with sociology is not applied often. Yet, the implementation of software studies in Damhuis’ research would have provided a more complete image. For example, how does Facebook’s software encourage the self-promoting machine? And how exactly do users construct themselves in a perfect way on Facebook?



Hoewel ons sociaal gedrag ‘normaal’ wordt gevonden, is het volgens Olsthoorn belangrijk om stil te staan bij de vraag hoe ons sociaal gedrag wordt geprogrammeerd door het gebruik van technologie. Met deze intentie heeft hij dan ook zijn nieuwste boek geschreven. De macht van dominante social media platformen zoals Facebook wordt enerzijds door de gebruikers als bevrijdend of zelfs verwonderend ervaren. Daarnaast biedt social media nieuwe handvatten aan commerciële bedrijven om op een vernieuwende manier klaten aan zich te binden. Anderzijds is ook de paradox van vrijheid voelbaar waarbij gebruikers zich hebben te houden aan de regels van Facebook en hun persoonlijke informatie geëxploiteerd wordt. Olsthoorn verkent in zijn boek diverse facetten van het sociale netwerk en zet hier zijn vraagtekens en soms ook uitroeptekens bij: “Hoe gaan we hier nu mee om? Dit gebeurt niet ‘gewoon’!”.Tijdens het debat werd er stilgestaan bij zowel de postieve als negatieve implicaties van de macht van Facebook.
Today British new media critic
Then web 2.0 came along and it became pretty easy to put content on the Internet. Web technologists developed products that allowed anyone to publish and we all became publishers, with the help of YouTube, blogging software and other new technology. ‘There are no librarians sitting in the Google search engine. It is an (supposedly) intelligent devise to define what we see online. My critique was a cultural one: user generated content is of lower quality than professional. People claim I am an elitist, and I agree. In the ‘Cult of the Amateur’ I am very critical about the free culture on the Internet because it makes it very hard for artist to make a living’ says Andrew Keen.



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